An important aspect of couples therapy is hearing and wanting to be heard by your partner. Couples learn how to listen and see their partner’s point of view because it’s important that each partner hears what is being said.

We will work on building better ways to tell partner about needs thus promoting happiness in the relationship. Will reduce fighting thus leading to better ways of talking about difficult situations. For couples with children, we will work together to learn co-parenting skills and create consistency for the children.

Approach To Couples Counseling

My approach to working with couples is strength based. Couples counseling creates a safe space for each partner to be free and to share thoughts. In every session partners freely express their feelings, such as joy or anger. Discussing these feelings prevents conflicts from arising. Each partner’s needs will be processed and discussed. Couples counseling teaches skills to build a better relationship.

These skills come from three main sources:

The Gottman Method - Which focuses on removing criticism and defensiveness from the relationship so couples better understand their partner.

Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy - CBT focuses on how false beliefs impact the couple’s relationship. It’s used to help the couple identify their core values thus shaping their relationship.

Family Systems - Is used to learn about each partner's family. Families can be open or closed. These types of systems affect current relationships.